January 2025

January has arrived, and with it came a wave of anxiety. Soon, I’ll be embarking on yet another adventure to South East Asia—a region that stirs a mix of emotions within me. Despite having spent 19 years of my life there and calling it home after leaving an eventful life in England, I find it challenging to feel at ease when discussing or revisiting this part of the world. It’s a place that carries both familiarity and discomfort for me.

Growing up, I always felt like I belonged somewhere else. As I began traveling extensively later in life, I realized that I didn’t truly belong anywhere. However, England was one of the places where I felt most at home. Between 2000 and 2006, during my married life with Mark, we lived in London and Wigan. During that time, I experienced life in the UK both as a housewife and as a part-time worker in various nursing and care homes through a Care Agency in St. Helens. 

We had countless dreams for our future together in the UK, but our journey took a heartbreaking turn when we parted ways in 2006, and I returned to Malaysia. The separation was deeply traumatic—leaving him behind, along with the life I had grown accustomed to in the UK, felt like losing a part of myself.

Fate brought us back into each other’s lives in 2008, and in 2010, we reunited in Thailand and Cambodia. However, our time together was fleeting and bittersweet. The region, with its turbulence, chaos, and harsh realities, seemed to conspire against us. From the very start, it felt like our reunion was destined to falter in a place so unforgiving, foreign, and exploitative.

In just a few weeks, I'll be boarding a train in Malaysia, heading north to Thailand—a familiar overland journey that I can't say I’m particularly excited about. Will it feel any different this time? The scenery will likely remain unchanged, but the key difference is that I'll be traveling on a cheaper, more crowded carriage. Here’s hoping there’s enough space to make the trip at least somewhat comfortable. Wishful thinking, perhaps!

February 2025

I met Mark again after our reunion and separation in November 2024. It was quite pleasant and at the same time uncomfortable for me to meet him again in Cambodia. We had many interesting conversations on almost any topics under the sun. He kept on mentioning that he had to work for the future of a certain person from Asia - from a previous relationship with a local woman he met when we first arrived in Asia in 2010 - even though he had had not been well and penniless for quite a while. 

Asia can be extremely brutal and extremely exploitive and one needs to have a strong awareness in order to avoid being mistreated. One can easily get mistreated or abused by them if one is considered disadvantaged - e.g. not as "good" or as "rich" as them or not being liked by them for reasons best known to them.

One also oftentimes had to endure the too many extremely unnecessarily rude, chaotic, horrible encounters at workplaces or public places (as I had experienced too many times in the past) and one may take ages to recover from it. I had experienced the pain of being abused (whilst working for a pittance) while struggling financially, exploited, manipulated and felt all alone in the wilderness throughout the years I have been in Asia. It can be traumatic to be disadvantaged, victimised and bullied in Asia. One just needs to be brave and strong.

Mark needs to prioritise his well-being, especially as he is getting on in age. He was my soulmate, and our journey together began in London back in 1999. Although life pulled us apart many times over the years for various reasons, we managed to reconnect back after a long spell of 14 years. We had been through many difficult circumstances. He was forever finding fault with me even though I was trying my best to make our failed marriage work. He even accused me of running away from our marriage when in reality he failed to understand my frustration and he was at many, various times pushing me away, when I tried to patch up with him almost immediately after I ran way from him out of frustration. And he even mentioned how "nice" his new family in Asia is to him when the reality seems far less ideal. And I did not like it the way he pressured me to agree with him with lots of untruthful things he said about me. It is just getting too much.

I traveled to Asia to visit him because I was genuinely concerned about him and our future together in the region. However, instead of understanding my intentions, he accused me of lacking empathy! I used to have lots of empathy but I'm slowly running out of empathy for him! I just do not have much left to give. My experiences in Asia have been challenging, yet he showed no understanding or support. Instead, he went as far as to accuse me of "lying" or making up "stories"! It was deeply hurtful and left me feeling more alone than ever. 

Far too often, his angry outbursts toward me felt completely unwarranted, especially considering I had already contributed more than my fair share of expenses during our travels across Asia. I had also been incredibly supportive of him when he pursued his TESOL certification there.

The countless separations from him have been deeply painful and emotionally overwhelming for me. Yet, I know I must press on, finding a way to navigate my daily life in this hot and humid tropical Asian region, surrounded by people with whom I feel little connection.

While I can speak a few local Asian languages, I am most comfortable and proficient in English. It has been a true lifesaver, enabling me to read, write, and connect effortlessly with both native and non-native English speakers around the world.

The journey was long and challenging, taking me overland from my hometown of Klang, Malaysia, through Kuala Lumpur, Bangkok, and into Cambodia—just to see him again. Yet, I didn’t mind the distance. Along the way, I had the incredible opportunity to meet fascinating people from all corners of the world. Travelers from Brazil, Germany, France, the USA, the UK, and beyond crossed my path, each with their own inspiring stories. It was truly comforting and uplifting to connect with so many courageous and adventurous souls.

Join me in March 2025 as I embark on the next chapter of my life. While it’s challenging for me to open up about difficult or painful moments — especially the traumatic experiences I faced in Asia — I choose to focus on the brighter, more uplifting aspects of my journey. Let’s celebrate the positives together!

Perhaps, one day, I may feel opening up the wounds would lead to a better healing process for me.

March 2025

Early March

I'm feeling optimistic as I look forward to meeting Mark again in two months. I'm already planning to bring along some snacks and nutritious food for him—it's always nice to share thoughtful gestures. Seeing him again in May 2025 will be such a joy!

In the meantime, I'll return to Malaysia and focus on my Wendy's Global English online project. My hope is to attract more interest and encourage more people to engage with it. For now, I'll keep dedicating my energy and passion to making it grow!

Late March

With my travels resuming in May, I've started planning the next phase of my journey through Southeast Asia. This involves plenty of research and making important decisions along the way. It can be a bit exhausting, especially with the limited options for affordable, comfortable, and suitable accommodations. Deciding where to stay is always a challenge!

I was thrilled to connect with Mark via Telegram, even though we're currently living apart. We had a lovely chat about the weather, shared bits about our lives, and more. It was heartwarming to see him in such good spirits.

The following day, Mark chose not to answer my call. Instead, our communication was limited to his recorded messages and text exchanges. I couldn't shake the disappointment—it felt as though he wasn’t interested in hearing the concerns I wanted to share. 

April 2025

I've updated my profile photo on X once again. This time, I’ve brought back the image of the charming St Nonna's Church, a historic gem nestled in the picturesque village of Altarnun, Cornwall, UK. I captured this serene shot during my stay at a nearby B&B back in 2022. It’s truly a beautiful and unforgettable place.

I stumbled upon this charming spot while searching for a suitable campsite. Instead of camping, I ended up staying at the cozy B&B situated right next to the picturesque campsite I had initially planned to explore. Although I didn’t get the chance to pitch a tent, I enjoyed meeting the friendly campers—some staying in tents, others in motorhomes—soaking in the beauty of the delightful campsite.

I felt a deep sadness as I left, but my journey to find a place I could truly call home carried on.

In mid-April, I began adding more personal insights and details about my Wendy's Global English project to my Wendy's Journal website. This marks a deliberate step to enhance and develop the project through the platform.

By the end of this year, I aim to dedicate myself fully to blogging about my Wendy's Global English project through this journal. I remain optimistic and excited about launching the project in the near future.

Exciting news! Up to ten free slots for my Wendy's Global English online session could become available in July 2025. Stay tuned—details and confirmation will be announced soon!

May 2025

May 5, 2025

Watching Simon from Unique Property Company host a virtual tour of a breathtaking factory-conversion apartment on his YouTube channel truly sparked my imagination. I began envisioning Mark and me back in London—a city I left over two decades ago. Would I ever return? I can’t say for sure. Maybe one day, Mark and I could find our way back—perhaps even on a cruise ship, something I’ve never experienced before. For now, it’s just a dream, but who knows? Only time will reveal if it becomes reality.

In the meantime, I’ll continue developing my Wendy’s Global English project. There’s still a wealth of opportunities to explore and refine to ensure its success and viability. 

There are moments when I feel deeply confident about the immense potential of this project. I truly believe it could achieve remarkable global success. However, there are also times when doubts creep in, and I wonder if it will garner any interest or even take off. For now, I’ll give it a few more months and see how things unfold. xxx

Note: While my marriage to Mark has irreparably broken down, leaving me hesitant to return to the UK, I also worry about the potential loneliness and deepening sense of isolation that may come with growing older in Asia. I also do not like being trapped in Asia with people that I have nothing in common with,

May 5, 2025

Exciting Opportunity:  This July 2025, I’m offering ten free 30-minute online sessions to selected applicants! If you’re interested, simply send an email to wendypass1969@icloud.com. Be sure to include your name, location, five questions for the session, and your Telegram username for the video call. Don’t miss this chance—apply now!

If selected for the complimentary 30-minute session, you’ll receive a confirmation email with a proposed date and time. The session can be rescheduled upon mutual agreement. For the latest updates and insights on my Wendy’s Global English project, don’t forget to visit my blog.

May 6, 2025

Who would have thought that Stratford-Upon-Avon, the birthplace of Shakespeare, is also home to the charming Shakespaw Cat Café? Named as a playful nod to the legendary playwright, this cozy café has been beautifully detailed by Dani on her blog, Travelling Jezebel. Check it out at travellingjezebel.com!

I'll admit, visiting Shakespaw Cat Café—or any cat café for that matter—wasn’t something I ever thought I’d consider. However, it truly makes for an intriguing read, even for those who aren’t necessarily cat lovers.

Although I’m not particularly a fan of cats, I must admit that reading about them and admiring a cute kitty photo turned out to be quite intriguing. Plus, the menu featuring delightful treats like cat-shaped ‘Kitty Crumpets’ was an added charm!

Kudos to Dani for yet another beautifully crafted blog post!

May 7, 2025

Anyone intrigued by the topic of *English as a Global Language* should explore the insightful article by Richard Barker, last updated on April 3, 2024. You can find it on the History of English website at historyofenglish.com.

It delves into key questions that I look forward to discussing with participants during my Wendy's Global English sessions.

What is a Global Language?

Why is a Global Language Needed? 

Is a Global Language Necessarily "A Good Thing"? 

Is English a Global Language?

Is English Appropriate for a Global Language?

If you're interested in joining the free July 2025 sessions, open to ten selected participants, you're encouraged to apply. These sessions may include the five questions mentioned above to guide the discussions.

Participants might also be asked questions such as, "What is your favorite word in the English language?" 

"May" is my favourite word, and it’s probably the one I use most often in my Wendy's Journal.

We’ve officially entered the fifth month of the year, often celebrated as the final chapter of spring in the northern hemisphere. That’s right—it’s May! Surprisingly, though, May isn’t my favorite month. That title belongs to February, the month of my birthday.

Let me explain: "May" is my favourite word. It embodies the essence of possibility, hope, and optimism—offering a gentle reminder that even in uncertain times, positive outcomes are within reach.

For instance, may our dreams become reality!

For many, the word "may" carries a slightly more optimistic tone compared to "might." In fact, when undecided, using "may" often suggests a subtle lean towards a more positive outcome.

"May" is widely regarded as a more polite choice when requesting permission or making a suggestion. 

What’s your favorite word, and what makes it special to you? We can’t wait to explore your favorite words together in your upcoming sessions with Wendy’s Global English!

May 8, 2025

I came across a beautiful, short poem titled "The First of May" by Annette Wynne, featured on the Discover Poetry website (discoverpoetry.com).

Here we go!

The First of May - by Annette Wynne

If I could stay up late no doubt        

I'd catch the buds just bursting out;

And up from every hidden root

Would jump a tiny slender shoot;

I wonder how seeds learn the way,

They always know the very day

The pretty, happy first of May,

If I could stay up then, no doubt

                                                                                       I'd catch the buds just bursting out.                                                                                                                                                    

I love this poem for its vivid imagery, especially the phrase "buds bursting out," which beautifully symbolizes new growth and fresh beginnings in my life. It makes me envision witnessing the moment those buds unfurl, drawing me closer to the beauty and essence of nature.

May 9, 2025

Are you a native English speaker with a passion for sharing ideas and exploring diverse topics about the English language? Become part of the discussion with Wendy's Global English today!

Ever thought about how many generations ago your family started speaking English?

Would you like to share your expertise as a native English speaker with Wendy's Global English? I'm inviting you to join an engaging online chat session! To get started, simply send an email to wendypass1969@icloud.com. Don’t miss this exciting opportunity to participate in a free online session with Wendy's Global English this July 2025!

Or,

Are you a non-native English speaker? Do you still view yourself as an English learner, or have you reached a point where you confidently use the language with ease?

Do you consider yourself a lifelong learner? If yes, which stage below best represents where you are on your journey?

a) A lower-intermediate English speaker - capable of managing simple, day-to-day conversations comfortably. However, they may still be in the process of expanding their vocabulary and boosting their confidence in using the language.

b) Upper-intermediate English speaker – capable of confidently engaging in diverse conversations, articulating opinions clearly, presenting well-structured arguments, and employing a wide-ranging vocabulary with ease.

c) Advanced or Near-Native English Proficiency – exhibits exceptional fluency, enabling seamless communication with both native speakers and highly proficient non-native speakers. Regularly uses English as their primary language, often as a lingua franca, and actively seeks to enhance their knowledge of the language and its role in global communication.

Are you ready to join an engaging online chat session with Wendy's Global English?  

If you are interested to share your native English speaking journey or non-native English learning journey with Wendy's Global English, please email wendypass1969@icloud.com to enquire a free online chat session with Wendy's Global English in July 2025.  

Please note: Selected participants may apply to join multiple 30-minute online chat sessions, subject to further review and confirmation. We encourage participants to explore a wide range of topics, not limited to those related to the English language.

May 11, 2025

Did you know that English ranks as the second most spoken language across Europe?

Austria (73%), Croatia (49%), Cyprus (49%), Denmark (86%), Finland (70%), Germany (56%), Greece (51%), Hungary (40%), Iceland (98%), Italy (35%), Malta (88%), Netherlands (93%), Norway (88%), Poland (32%), Portugal (27%), Russia (80%), Sweden (89%), Turkey (17%).

English is the most widely spoken second language in the countries mentioned above, with usage rates ranging from 17% to an impressive 98%. (Source: Express.co.uk, article: "The Second Most Spoken Language in Europe," published May 10, 2025).

May 12, 2025

Question: Is English my native language?

Answer: No, but I consider English my de facto native language, as I began my journey with it at a very young age—over fifty years ago.

The English language has always been a cornerstone of my life and remains an inseparable part of who I am. I feel truly fortunate to communicate fluently with both native and non-native English speakers from around the world. It’s incredible to connect with people globally through English—an endlessly fascinating and universally captivating language!   

Three reasons why I’m not a native English speaker (even though I consider English my de facto "native" language).

Reason #1: I come from a predominantly Asian, non-native English-speaking background. Although I was exposed to English as a lingua franca from a young age—my parents primarily communicated with each other and with me in English—it was not my country of origin first language.

Reason #2: I have been learning English as a second language since childhood.

Reason #3: I don't speak with a native English accent.

In short, while English isn't my first language in my country of origin, I consider it my de facto "native" language.

Are you a native English speaker? If so, what’s the story behind it? If not, what’s your journey?

Join a free 30-minute online video chat session with Wendy's Global English this July 2025! If selected, you'll have the chance to explore this topic further during an engaging live conversation. Apply now to secure your spot!

Note: The online sessions are highly interactive, centered around in-depth discussions based on selected questions and answers from participants and Wendy's Global English resources.

26 May 2025

What Drives Us to Explore the World?

Can you, or anyone else, answer this question?

It has always intrigued me why so many people find joy in venturing beyond the comforts of their everyday lives!

Do I truly enjoy spending hours on trains, vans, planes, and more, only to end up in an unfamiliar, unwelcoming, and strange place?

I prefer not to travel to destinations where English isn't widely spoken, the environment feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar, or places that push me too far out of my comfort zone. 

Many of us who travel to unfamiliar places often do so for a variety of reasons—seeking adventure, pursuing courage, searching for meaning, escaping life's challenges, breaking free from boredom, or exploring the possibilities of a better lifestyle. Whether driven by curiosity or a need for change, every journey carries its own unique purpose.

I believe traveling can be incredibly enriching for the soul, especially when we have the means to explore distant destinations. Beyond that, traveling might not always feel necessary—unless, of course, it's to visit loved ones or family who live far away.

Have you ever dreamed of traveling to distant destinations? Where have your adventures taken you so far? Which places make you feel most at home? And if you could choose, where would you settle down for good?

Ultimately, for many of us, traveling is about finding familiar places and communities where we can connect with like-minded individuals—people who share our values, ideals, and perspectives.

It’s an intriguing topic to explore and even more exciting to discuss with travelers from across the globe during my upcoming online sessions! 

28 May 2025

Have you ever deeply cared for someone, only to have that "special" person tell you someone else from an alien culture means more to them? It's a tough pill to swallow, isn't it? I felt the hurt too, but life doesn't stop. When you pour your time, energy, and heart into a relationship that ends up failing, it can feel like everything was for nothing. But despite the heartbreak and life's unexpected twists and turns, I'm still moving forward - and I'm doing alright. Hopefully, I'll get up again and be able to work towards a better future for myself despite all the obstacles and instability in my life.

Do you have a special someone in your life? Or perhaps children? I adore kids, even though I don’t have any of my own! 

I longed for a fulfilling family life in the UK, but it seemed out of reach. Growing up, I often felt a sense of insecurity, a feeling that followed me into adulthood. I found myself constantly striving to survive and adapt in environments that were far removed from the life I had envisioned. 

For the past twenty years, I poured my heart into salvaging the fragments of my marriage. Despite my unwavering efforts, I was faced with the heartbreaking reality of living alone, after my attempt to create a meaningful family life with Mark fell apart. 

29 May 2025

Do you believe it's healthier for humans to spend most of their time alone?

Or,

Do you believe having more friends enhances our lives as humans?

Or,

Do you believe having more acquaintances enriches our lives?

For me, solitude has a way of healing my pain far more effectively than being surrounded by strangers, friends, or even acquaintances.